Embracing the Four Seasons As A Guide For Personal Reflection
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Forgiveness – Part of Healing Our Wounds
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We only have one shot at this thing called life – own your destiny
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Creating Healthy Mindsets and Pathways
Earlier this month we talked about looking at limiting beliefs and understanding how the resulting thoughts and attitudes affect our actions and behaviors. I promised that you didn’t have to be bound by your limiting beliefs and that you can turn them around to be life-giving and lead to thriving. Now we will explore how!
Let’s take the next step with our activity. We started with this flow:
· A limiting belief and unhelpful mindset is formed. Mine was “I’m not worthy”.
· Thoughts and attitudes grow from that belief. Mine were “I must prove my worth and earn my value”.
· Finally, actions and behaviors result from the thoughts. My actions were to strive for grades, achievements and accolades to prove myself and gain love which led to a lifetime of striving.
Now let’s move to another flow. We want to see what the positive/helpful mindset or belief would be.
Love Yourself by Nurturing Yourself
February is the month of love, or at least it holds the thought of Valentine’s Day. My hope for you is that you can show one of the most important people in your life that you love them: YOU! So many times, we have ourselves at the bottom of the list when we seek to support and nurture people. I encourage you this month to do some things that are self-nurturing.
To encourage this, we pick up from last month’s blog with our exploration of unhealthy mindsets. In some ways they can become walls of thinking we build up that limit us until we look at them and challenge them.
New Year, New Perspective
Every New Year we get the opportunity to look back on the success of the previous year and establish what we hope to accomplish in the new one. This year, we get 366 opportunities to live the best possible version of ourselves. We also get 366 chances to make peace with the past and find ways of further healing our pain.
As we discussed earlier in the month, January is thought to be named for the Roman God Janus. This two-faced deity oversees the gate between one’s past and future. He governs the movement from who you were, to becoming who you want to be.
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New Year’s Day is a wonderful way for us to remember that every new day is another chance for us to be the best possible version of ourselves. This year, in particular, can feel a bit more impactful since 2020 might have felt like such a futuristic year as we were coming of age. Many people might be feeling like they haven’t lived up to the expectation they set out for themselves decades prior. Do you feel like your reality is better or more lacking from what you had envisioned?
The year alone conjures up thoughts of 20/20 vision. The visual acuity that people strive to possess throughout life. You can take this clarity of sight and apply it to your everyday life. No doubt you have been inundated with thoughts or mentions of New Year’s Resolution or how “this year will be better.”
Instead of thinking in terms of absolutes or a need to be better, try thinking in terms of your journey. The month of January is thought to be named for the Roman God Janus who governs transitions, duality, and passages. He was essentially a gatekeeper with the ability to look both forwards and back. We, as people with a history of sexual abuse, understand what it is like to live between two worlds. How life was before our assault, and how the trauma forever changed us. This transition is at the heart of the journey of a victim, to a survivor, to a thriver. It’s this growing process that helps us heal, reclaim our voice and ultimately shine our light of inspiration to the broader community.
New Year – A Time for Possibilities
New Year’s Day is a wonderful way for us [...]
