Going Forward: Survivors to Thrivers Movement
will expand the #metoo movement by:
Guiding survivors to find strength and freedom through naming and reclaiming
their unique gifts and releasing limiting beliefs
Enabling the rewriting of old narratives into “Going-Forward Stories”; ones of wholeness and purpose
Bringing awareness and light into the shame, silence and darkness of sexual abuse
We have astonishing capacity but often face circumstances that create a barrier to our ability to
manifest our full potential
We all have a right to live beyond merely existing
We can reclaim our story; free from pain, ill health, guilt or shame
As a community we can create a supportive, validating and empowering place to counter the culture of sexual abuse that silences victims
“I feel like I have hit a plateau in my life and I can’t reach that next level of living.”
This is a common statement for many survivors of sexual abuse and other traumatic experiences. Does this resonate with you? If so, you might be in need of creating that bridge from Survivor to Thriver. Survivor-Mindset entails a focus on understanding your experience, discovering what matters to you and healing. Thriver-Mindset is the courage to accept the trauma and finding a place where one can coexist with both the darkness and enlightenment you gained from the experience.
A thriver realizes they aren’t the same person they were before the trauma. Instead they have become a stronger and more inspirational individual who can steadfastly traverse a shifting environment guided by peace and light. It can feel easier said than done. Start small and speak kindly to yourself.
It only takes a moment for something treasured to break. Once it’s broken the item will never be the same again. You possess a special gift, choice. You get to choose what to do with this broken item. Do you throw it away and replace it, or do you attempt to piece it back together? If you opt to reassemble the object, do you showcase, use, or hide it? This is similar to people who face trauma like sexual abuse. We have made the choice to continuing existing, but are we really able to live in our new skin? How do you interact with this new you? Are you showcasing your strength, interacting with the world with various masks on, or are you trying to keep in the background still feeling broken?
One term associated with the transition from Survivor to Thriver is Resiliency. Merriam-Webster defines resiliency as the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress. This speaks to the ability to adjust after trauma. Continuing the transformation from Victim to Survivor to Thriver one is able to reclaim direction and strength.
Earlier in the month we discussed the journey from victim to survivor. This is a period to shift from a place of passive protection from pain into a place of forward movement and healing. During this transition, one reclaims their voice and establishes their new phase of life. This is the time to practice active discovery within yourself.
Earlier, we asked what you thought of when you heard the terms Victim and Survivor. Did you feel sparked to journal your thoughts? If so, begin by lighting a candle and inviting the divine to surround you during the work. Next, retrieve your journal and take a few minutes to reflect upon what you wrote, or you may choose to begin writing down insights. At Survivors to Thrivers we promote freedom of religion and spiritual, so walk in your truth and know its ok to adjust language to better fit your spiritual path. For example, if you are humanist or agnostic, you may choose to light the candle to symbolize peace, hope and the process of allowing light to shine through the darkness.