Turning Your Pain Into Purpose
How can you turn the pain you have experienced into purpose?
In this Guest Thriver Blog, Kim Lakin Creger tells us what worked for her.
Earlier this month, Kim shared her story and we continue to learn from Kim who is a:
- Childhood Sexual Abuse Prevention Speaker,
- #1 Best Selling Contributing Author, in Stop The Silence: Healing After Child Sexual Abuse,
- Host of a Blog Talk Radio Show, Mondays, and Wednesdays, on NAASCA,
- Stewards Of Children Prevention Specialist, Certified Instructor, and Authorized Facilitator.
Like many others, I have held on to trauma from my past.
This kept me from becoming the person God intended me to be.
First Step – Breaking the Cycle
I have broken the cycle by making sure that my children grew up healthy, happy, and free from abuse. I didn’t know exactly how to do this…But I did know how Not to raise children.
- All I knew to do with my children, was to be everywhere they were to keep them safe.
- I didn’t have the tools to teach them about body safety at that time.
- Now I have body safety books on my grandchildren’s bookshelf to empower them to know they are the boss of their bodies.
Second Step – Moving into Purpose
I’ve always known that I wanted to help people, but for a long time, I didn’t know the path I was meant to take.
- First, I became a certified children’s grief specialist and started a group for children at my church. This was a stepping stone to open up and build a community.
- I kept searching for additional ways I could help and heal those with trauma like my own.
- As a child of emotional and physical abuse, I was a walking billboard of how trauma can keep you stuck in an old mindset.
- Believing the words that were spoken to me as a child created a warped recording I have played over and over in my mind.
- When you are fed negativity daily, it, unfortunately, sinks in and you believe it to be true. I believed those lies for 40 years.
- About 18 years ago, I was sitting at a Women of Faith Conference. I heard God tell me that I would be speaking and educating about child sexual abuse prevention.
- That revelation was scary; however, it would be many years before I was ready to take on this work.
- God did a lot of preparing my heart to find what He wanted me to do.
- He finally led me to become a Certified Instructor and Authorized Facilitator for Darkness to Light, Stewards of Children.
I’ve encountered abused children in my work and volunteer career. Because of my experience, I have always wanted to give children hope, grace, forgiveness, and unconditional love that they can’t always get at home.
- Now I can educate the children as well.
- As a Certified Instructor and Authorized Facilitator for Darkness to Light, Stewards of Children, I have trained over 8oo adults on how to protect children.
- We have in-person and online classes.
Churches were my target audience to teaching Stewards of Children.
- 1 in 10 children will be abused before their 18th birthday!
- Churches are one of the number one places for abusers to hide out.
- An abuser could be the person sitting next to you, or someone working in the youth group.
My heart is to get into churches before something happens.
- We need to start being the voice for those who need help voicing their truth.
- Believing in the child is the first step to any healing!
- Understanding that children act out or have episodes of acting out is usually a sign of trauma is essential. Caregivers must understand where children are coming from and Pay Attention!
You have heard my story and my passion to make a difference. I truly feel that speaking and teaching are the next step in my healing journey and sharing with you has been an honor.
I want to encourage you along your healing journey and hope you can ultimately come to a place where your pain leads you to purpose. I know healing is different for everyone, but I know my true healing and forgiveness have come from God.
Healing is not an easy road. It takes time to record over the tapes of verbal, emotional, and physical abuse.
It takes time to find your self-worth. I hope you make the investment of time.
You are worth it! Kim
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