Fall is a season of maturation and change which makes it a good time for reflection, awareness, and mindfulness. I invite you to consider the following questions:
- How have you matured and changed this year?
- What are you being invited to release?
- Are there commitments, relationships, or patterns that no longer serve you? What would it look like to let them go?
- What attitudes or beliefs can you release to make more space for something new?
- What would it look like to “organically” let the release happen? This may look like surrendering, yielding, or loosening your grip.
As survivors, we may need to release a feeling of being overwhelmed.
Holding onto hopelessness or layers of grief can steal our joy.
This letting go can feel impossible, but know that by releasing what we are holding onto, we make room for new life and pivotal possibilities to break through.
Imagine a closed fist.
Now think about something wonderful being offered.
The hand must open to receive.
If it is holding tightly to something in the past, it may be prevented from receiving the gift of the present.
This is easier said than done.
We live in a culture that denies pain and suffering and encourages every possible method of distraction. It sends messages of “be strong,” “move on,” or “think positive.”
What we must realize is that the reality of pain is a given. When we deny this pain, we become stuck in unhealthy patterns hurting ourselves and others. Acknowledging that something is not right allows us to see it, address it, and release it. It is how we begin to open up our hands and minds and hearts.
Author Johanna Macy describes the power of letting ourselves experience our pain.
- When we hold back, we become incapable of acting in a meaningful way.
- When we suppress the pain, Macy says, we tend toward three main coping strategies: Disbelief, denial, and double life.
Do any of these strategies sound familiar?