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Earlier in the month we discussed the journey from victim to survivor.  This is a period to shift from a place of passive protection from pain into a place of forward movement and healing. During this transition, one reclaims their voice and establishes their new phase of life.  This is the time to practice active discovery within yourself. 

Earlier, we asked what you thought of when you heard the terms Victim and Survivor.  Did you feel sparked to journal your thoughts?  If so, begin by lighting a candle and inviting the divine to surround you during the work.  Next, retrieve your journal and take a few minutes to reflect upon what you wrote, or you may choose to begin writing down insights.  At Survivors to Thrivers we promote freedom of religion and spiritual, so walk in your truth and know its ok to adjust language to better fit your spiritual path.  For example, if you are humanist or agnostic, you may choose to light the candle to symbolize peace, hope and the process of allowing light to shine through the darkness. 

Words have power.  They help influence how we present ourselves to the outside world, and likewise external terms can profoundly influence our relationship with ourselves.  For the next two series of blogs, we will explore a few labels applied to people who experienced sexual assault and how these terms impact our psyche.  In order to fully reclaim our voice and power we must realize how the terms surrounding these transitions color our perceptions and contribute to potential limiting beliefs.  To truly appreciate the light, sometimes we must better understand the dark.  Be brave and openminded as you go on this journey with us.

What do you think about when you hear the word Victim?  Does it conjure up thoughts of shame, pain, weakness, and helplessness?  When we are a victim, thoughts and actions are happening to us.  We are in a place of enduring.  Merriam-Webster defines endure as “to remain firm under suffering or misfortune without yielding.”  This is a passive state where victims are guarding themselves and outlast the pain.  Yet, it is important to notice, the victim is not to be blamed for being in this poor situation.  This is the time we must be the kindest to ourselves and allow for self-soothing. 

Welcome to Going Forward: Survivors to Thrivers, a community built to empower individuals who have experienced sexual abuse.  In the wake of the #MeToo movement, many have wondered what comes next.  We have broken our silence and worked to heal our wounds both visible and deeply personal.  Are you feeling caught between worlds of light and dark, grinding your gears to get to that next plane of living?  Join our community of people striving to live fully realized lives as Thrivers. 

Earlier in the month you got to know us.  Now we would like to meet you.  Best part, you can do this exercise in a comfortable space without having to leave your tech bubble.  You are going to take a subliminal trip to introduce yourself to Tambry and in the process possible gain some new insights or reframing about yourself.  We ask that you approach this exercise with an open heart and a spirit that is both curious and loving.

Welcome to Going Forward: Survivors to Thrivers, a community built to empower individuals who have experienced sexual abuse.  In the wake of the #MeToo movement, many have wondered what comes next.  We have broken our silence and worked to heal our wounds both visible and deeply personal.  With this intense work to heal the hurt, people shift from a place of victimhood to survivor.  So that’s it! We’re done, never to face the specter of our trauma again, Right?! Well… not always.  Some lucky individuals are able to reclaim their life and move on.  Yet many others enter a place of feeling stuck.  Caught between worlds of light and dark, grinding one’s gears to get to that next plane of living.  Most people are somewhere between these two scenarios.  Ready to better understand and adjust our limiting beliefs, but need a solid support system to help facilitate a shift into healthier and empowered patterns.

This is where Going Forward: Survivors to Thrivers comes in.  The women behind this movement have all been where you might be now.  We discovered a rich power within us, which wasn’t always able to manifest as we hoped.  We went through the therapy and work to heal.  We started to discover voices we feared might have been lost forever.  We took strides to shift our lives into greater purpose, but something still was missing. 

We were existing, but were we really living?  How could we go beyond the fight of survivorship, to a place where we could realize our untapped potential and Thrive?  The answer we discovered was a blend of community and holistic wellness.  We found commonality in our stories and innermost concerns.  We discovered that when we found a balance between the darkness of our hurts, while creating space for healing light, we could create hope for a truly vibrant tomorrow.  This allowed us to be vivacious and fulfilled individuals; we could dance in the light and truly Go Forward.