Take Steps for Soul-Evolution
First step: State, “I give myself permission to grieve the physical, emotional, and mental pain associated with the trauma endured.” (That means you can cry, scream, journal, and talk to someone you trust.) Think about what will be most helpful to you.
Second step: Notice when you are operating in unhealthy learned patterns such as building emotional and mental walls, isolating yourself, and holding your pain inside. Write down those patterns, how do they hold you back from fully evolving? (NOTE: exploring these patterns is the work that Survivors to Thrivers supports in its individual guidance and small group retreats. Click here to learn more.)
Third step: Begin to see yourself as a triumph and not a tragedy. Most people only consider major life accomplishments as a triumph such as a degree, a job promotion, etc. Survivors often believe their learned behavior sets them apart from others and condemn themselves. Take the time to notice the positive things you may have learned from your trauma. For example, I can read others’ eyes and body language to determine if they are calm or unsettled. Another example might be, how I learned to not ignore internal warnings about people or places.