Claiming Your New Mindset

Published On: January 15th, 2024
Earlier this month, I shared the story of the baby elephant. Even though the elephant grew, it was stuck thinking it was too weak or small to leave captivity.
  • Does that story resonate with you in any way?

  • How about my story of personally feeling unworthy and then getting stuck in unhealthy patterns of accepting bad behavior that reinforced my “less-than” mindset?

I want you to begin to think about what unhealthy mindsets might exist for you.
  • These mindsets can be deeply ingrained and hard to see because we have been living in them for some time.

  • We think they are just “the way it is.”

  • I want you to know, it doesn’t have to be that way.


I am going to take you through a process to become aware of these mindsets.

To tap into that deep sense of knowing we all have, I want to start with you getting “centered” or “grounded”.

  • To do this, take 3 deep, cleansing breaths.
  • Next, take note of what you notice in your body. Is there tension? Is there anything you need to release to be present for this activity?
  • Does any insight come up for you as you settle in to allow yourself to explore mindsets?

If you have a journal or notepad, I encourage you to capture words, thoughts, and even images that come to mind for you.

Let’s begin. What comes up for you when you read:

  • I must always:
  • I can never:
  • I am:
  • I should:

As you reflect on the thoughts, phrases, and images, begin to evaluate them.

  • What is the source of these mindsets?
  • What are the facts?
  • What is true?
  • Do these beliefs serve you? How or how not?

These are deep questions requiring deep thought. That is why we centered ourselves before starting.

Take your time answering these questions. This may be an exercise you explore throughout the week.
Our first step in healing is to see and understand what “is”.
  • Seeing the mindsets that have developed through the years is a HUGE step toward awareness and even awakening.
  • This could be compared to a fish becoming aware of the water that surrounds it in the fishbowl.
  • Perhaps our water has become very murky and it is time to change it.
control your mindsets
The desire to change our mindsets comes from seeing that they are not working for us.
  • Seeing that your mindsets are not based on fact or reality will help you let go of them.
  • For the elephant, it needs to see it is big, strong, and capable of breaking the restraints.
  • I needed to see I was inherently worthy and deserved to be loved and treated well.

Next month we will continue to explore Claiming Your New Mindset and how you can move to a Life-Giving one!

If you like the reflection activity in this blog, you will enjoy the book Awakening the Light!

’Awakening the Light’ is miraculous as it caused me to analyze my re-occurring body theme of anger leading me to ask, ‘Where does this come from?’  It was only through the reflection this book afforded, that I was able to connect the dots between my flashes of anger and unresolved self-hatred stemming from childhood neglect and attack at the hands of my family.  ~ Cathy

Awakening the Light: A Survivors to Thrivers Going-Forward Story is available through our book tab or by clicking here:

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